Own it

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

 – Maya Angelou

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I’m happy to report that over the last 6 months my health has improved considerably. I’ve enjoyed more dinner dates and adventures with my husband, strengthened my core muscles, attended weddings of family and friends, golfed, kayaked, walked in the ocean, hiked in the Blue Ridge Mountains to a waterfall, continued painting, heard mountain climbers, deep sea divers and Olympic athletes tell of their adventures, and spent some time with friends. Crazy good!

It’s been wonderful, scary, challenging, surreal, and at times downright strange. There are times when I feel like I’ve taken a deep, 4-year transforming sleep, and upon awakening find the world looks very different from the one I knew before. I wonder if butterflies ever have the same feelings. They “go to sleep” a caterpillar, and wake up a butterfly. Can you even image what it takes to accomplish that? Or how amazingly unsettling it could be?

For both the butterfly and me,

the world really didn’t change that much.

We did.

I feel as different on the inside, as the caterpillar turned butterfly looks on the outside. I wish my transformation had given me actual wings (because how cool would that be), but the truth is I got inside wings instead. It’s taking some time to get used to them. Some days I feel like I know how to use them, and on other days I’m flopping around on the floor, or helplessly caught in some invisible net.

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I didn’t think that this “getting better” phase would look like this. I expected I would slide right back into my life as it was, going at the pace I was used to. It turns out, things don’t really work that way. And it’s actually a really good thing. I’ve worked long and hard for this new internal me, and it would be criminal to kick her to the curb, or keep her locked in a cage, crumpling her wings and spirit.

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My new internal wings symbolize some very real and external qualities and gifts for me. They’ve given me several new guideposts along my path. Actually, there are only four. Which makes each one of them very important.

  1. Stay connected to yourself first. Yes. First.
  2. Keep meditating. Yes. Everyday. This will help you immensely with steps 1 and 3. Oh, and with step 4, as well.
  3. Own it. Own your wants, needs, likes, dislikes, feelings, emotions and reactions. Own what is important to you. Even if you are the only one who finds it important. Own your spirit, and your life, too. This step is very important and very empowering. Don’t skip it.
  4. Make your choice. Yes. Your choice. For you. Not for anyone else. And then own that, too.

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This whole “getting well” transition will continue for a while I’m sure. It’s exciting and scary, but it’s essential to me to value every insight, lesson, challenge, and gift my illness has brought me. I do believe this unplanned “cocoon time” was exactly what my life needed. I promise I will not waste it. My health and happiness depend on it.

Honor and listen to the transitions, transformations, and the calling of your life, dear friends. I have found life gets pretty insistent if you don’t.

Thank you Honey for hanging in there with me!!

Be Brave.

Be Happy.

Be True.

lOve, vickiO

13 comments

  1. Sandra Eakes

    This is so beautifully written and spoke so loudly to me this morning. I’d like to share more but don’t know who sees these posts. Thank you for sharing. Am I able to email what you wrote to someone? ❤️❌⭕️‼️

  2. Diane Stallings

    Well said, Vicki! Thank you for this. True, we can’t go back to the way we were. Like that old shoe is too tight for us anymore 😉 Love your photos and artwork here, too. Yummy!

  3. Cari

    Hello Vicki — We met briefly in our store in Downtown Fargo a few weeks back and talked about the Fountain Hills show. I finally returned from vacation to look at your work, and I absolutely love the colors, textures and messages of it all. I cannot wait to see it in person at an Arizona show! And what a journey you have been on…glad to hear things are going much better. I hope you enjoyed your time “up north”, and thank you so much for stopping by and chatting. Cari

    • vickioart

      Hello Cari! Thank you so much for checking out my website, and for your very kind words. I loved your shop in downtown Fargo, and look forward to seeing you right here in Fountain Hills❤️ Enjoy the rest of your summer, and the beautiful Fall weather in the Midwest! Peace, Vicki

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